A one-page structure for clarifying what you want to build, change, or understand through this work.
Vague goals create vague results. This framework is designed to move you from "I want to feel better" to crystal-clear intention. It becomes your north star throughout the engagement.
Describe where you are right now. Not where you think you should be — where you actually are.
Prompts:
Be specific. Not "feel better" — name what needs to shift.
Example shifts:
What's the shift that would change everything?
Paint a picture. Describe what your life looks, feels, and sounds like when the work is complete.
Questions to answer:
Be honest about what's in the way. Also name what's available to you.
Obstacles:
What beliefs, patterns, fears, or external factors might slow progress?
Resources:
What support, strengths, or capacities do you already have?
Current State:
I'm in a marriage that feels more distant than it used to. We don't fight a lot — we just don't really connect. I'm doing all the emotional labor and I'm exhausted. I want to feel close again, but I've given up trying because nothing seems to change.
What Needs to Change:
I need to move from resignation and one-sided effort to genuine partnership. I need to know how to ask for what I need without resentment building up. I need to know if this relationship is worth the work — and if it is, I need to know how to do that work together.
Long-Term Vision:
In 12 months, I'm in a partnership where both of us are showing up. We're having real conversations instead of surface-level updates. I feel heard and valued. There's laughter and actual intimacy — not just logistics. We're building something together instead of existing in parallel.
Obstacles & Resources:
Obstacles: My partner is skeptical about therapy. I tend to shut down when hurt instead of speaking up. We've built years of patterns.
Resources: We still care about each other. We both want to feel close. I'm willing to do whatever it takes.